From our friends at Dad-Blogs.com, a heads-up that Dr. Laura Schlessinger has said something achingly stupid and anachronistic. It wouldn’t be the first time.
“Doctor” Laura (not an M.D., but a Ph.D, in rat physiology, no less) has made a career out of pseudo-scientific renderings of what is essentially a worldview stolen from outdated romance novels. Men are “warriors,” “heroes,” “rescuers”; women need to “satisfy” them in order to be satisfied.
Not surprising, then, that she does not agree with men who become too involved with their children. Decide for yourselves.
I have not liked this skanky broad for many, many years. I dated a woman for a while that thought every word out of her mouth was the freakin’ word of the Lord. Thank God I’m not going out with her anymore!!!!
I liked her better when she hosted “Tales From The Crypt”.
@J.R. I hear you. She is somehow incredibly influential, and I’m sure you’re not alone in having been stuck in a relationship with a Dr. Laura fan. Eeks
@Jason Yes, and I think I got better relationship advice from Tales from the Crypt as well
Well, psychologists are all full of BS anyways! What Dr L. actually said is correct & sound, however her use of classic ROLEs “bringing home the bacon” & her observation about the “woman’s resentment” presses me to comment..
– I performed my classic “Dad” ROLE as the breadwinner when Mom stayed at home for our first child, a girl. Mom went back to work after 17 months maternity.
– I performed the “Mom” role for 8 months between software contracts. Gymboree, Swimming Lessons, Tea Parties.. Diapers, Cooking, Cleaning AND worked on software. That time was precious to both my daughter & I.
– A few years later, shortly after (5 weeks) the birth of our son, Mom decided she liked working more. So once again I became “MomDad”.. There was a year waiting list for infant childcare, but Mom insisted she had to go to work & spent her free time at church choir. I elected to stay at home because half of my after tax income would have been going to daycare fees. The kid’s childhoods were more important.
For a decade, working freelance from home to boot, our home was immaculate, dinner on time, kids involved in extra-curriculars.. The cartoon stereotypes presented in the media are BS to alleviate women’s guilt. All was well, career getting back on track, until Mom announced she wanted a divorce.
So 3 years post separation, the kids are doing poorly at school, the home looks like it is inhabited by “nesting orangutans” & Mom still works & goes to church choir (2 of them now). Ignoring the kids all the time. She says she “wanted” to be a SAHM (menopausal regrets?)
The Cause?
Reason A: Mom is actually Attention Deficit Disordered – Predominantly Inattentive Sub-Type, BiPolar-II, Obsessive Compulsive Disordered Hoarder, Borderline Personality Disordered woman.
Reason B: Mom is a Feminist? She wanted equality without any responsibilities. Her Narcissistic Entitlement (which Dr L. buys into by her own classic ROLE description) allows women to simply ignore the classic SAHM & do whatever they want & change their minds constantly.
The Result:
The kids & I had the best time. The core of their developmental years were spent with a parent who loves them. They are old enough to recognize Mom for what she is (see Reason A) I wouldn’t trade it back for the hit it did to my own career. I pay no alimony & the kids will eventually come to hate the woman (if they don’t already). My influence is guiding both of them back on track with their academics. From time to time they still call me “Mom.. err, sorry Dad” which I humorously contracted to Mom-Dad & eventually MomDad (the only real parent they ever knew).
The Psychologists, especially feminist ones never hold themselves to the facts. They will waffle & squirm when you pin them down to ROLE or behavioral models.. too scientific.
I believe that the SAHM phenomenon has emerged & will continue to grow as a result of Feminist’s Histrionic Entitlement. North American culture seems to feed & legitimize DSM Cluster-B Personality Disorders in women (25% was a number I saw someplace). In the meantime, SOMEBODY has to take on the ROLE women have abandoned.. for the kids sake. In my case, it was simply recognizing my ROLE as a single father to: a newborn son, a 3 year old daughter, & a 5 year old brat (whom I unfortunately married).
It is nothing new, you will find the dynamic described in psychiatric texts about family dynamics & ADHD. Only today the behaviors (which stem from biology in ADHD) are being driven by the feminist movement.